Oh stillness. You’re like that guy I had a crush on in high school. So beautiful. So mysterious. So out of my reach. Every time I try to get closer to you, you wiggle away, totally unaware that I’m trying to get at you. I shrink back utterly dismayed and wonder… Will this ever happen? Will I ever get to you?
The answer is a resounding yes. But first, you gotta stop trying so hard.
Meditation practice has clear and proven benefits. Calming, check. Stress busting, check. Mental alertness, check. The list goes on.
The problem with meditation is that there are so many unnecessary and inaccurate expectations around it. For example, many people think that you have to be perfectly still and not think at all, otherwise you’re doing it wrong. Start again! Clear you head! Stop thinking right now!!!!!
Yeah. That’s super relaxing.
Give yourself a break. First of all, no one, not even the Dalai Lama, can stop thinking. Your brain is a magical tool. It likes to think. A lot. And that’s ok. You can think. The practice of meditation is not about stopping thinking. It’s about being with what is. It’s about letting go. It’s about feeling connected with the universe, God or whatever you want to call it. Call it being with yourself. So when the thoughts come in, see them. Let them come. And then let them go. Also, know that there’s no real right or wrong. In many cases, an ideal situation is sitting up with your back straight, legs crossed, hands on your thighs with your eyes closed. That might not fit for you. You might need or want to sit in a chair.
So do it. You can also lie down, but be forewarned that it will take you into sleep territory, which kind of defeats the purpose.
So, try it out. Even if it means you’re just sitting there with your eyes closed for a few minutes every day, I promise you, something will happen. You can also do guided meditation, which is great for newbies and those who just really want to hear some positive stuff.