I’ve been in debt for most of my adult life. Whether it’s credit cards, the house, car, school, there’s always been an energy of feeling trapped by these payments that I “have” to make and then energy of fear around being able to make them. Well, I finally had enough and decided that this needed to shift. To heal my relationship with money it was time to create something different for myself. And of course I wanted to share with you!
Worrying about money is a human condition, particularly in the western world. Our society is all about consumption, buy this thing and it will make you better as a person, or at least seem that way. And if you don’t, well you won’t be enough. It’s no wonder North Americans are literally the most in debt ever.
Money has always held an energy for me, growing up I heard a lot about not having enough, worry about paying bills, worry about where money will come from. There were many times that I felt trapped because I didn’t have enough. Or if I was feeling sad I would go out and buy shoes, clothes, eat at restaurants, all as a way to numb out the “bad” feelings that I didn’t want to face. When the visa bill came the following month, I would play out this drama and feel that knot in the pit of my stomach because I overspent and couldn’t pay it off. So the cycle would continue. Here’s the truth, it still comes up for me now. I worry and stress about where my money will come from, which keeps me in the drama and blocks my attraction. Until I had this moment of realization.
Money is power, but not in a way that most people think. It’s not this evil being that lords over you, holding you hostage. It’s a supportive energy. It’s meant to help you tap into your personal power, so you have the ability to choose and create the life you want. If money is a struggle for you, try this.
- Consider that you are blessed. Do you have a place to go home to every day? Do you have food in your fridge? Do you have a fridge? This is all good stuff. Blessings even.
- Practice gratitude. Consistently across the board, every facilitator, every healer, every transformational speaker will tell you. When you are thankful for what you have, when you notice your blessings, when you focus on being grateful, you create the energy of abundance. Period.
- Clean it up. What’s your language around money? How do you feel when you think about it? Are you scared? When you pay your bills are you resentful? Guess how helpful that is when you’re trying to attract more? (It’s not. At all.). Start to shift your stuck energy around money by being thankful. A little change in your words, like “Wow I’m so happy I can pay my bills on time.” From “Ugh, this sucks. I wanted to buy this instead.” Makes a huge impact
- Start to work on trust. Worrying about money is the best way to keep it from coming in. Instead of worrying about it, try this.
-Get still for a moment.
-Take a couple deep breaths
-Say to yourself. “I trust that I am always supported.”
-Pause. Breath again.
-Say to yourself. “Everything is always working out for me.”
-Check in. How do you feel now?
- Practice, practice, practice. If you’ve had weird energy around money, you being thankful for a day and saying one affirmation is not going to magically heal anything. You have to commit to this every single day. So, create a little ritual for yourself. First thing in the morning, sit up, create an intention, close your eyes and breath. Say your affirmation, take 5 minutes to write down a few things you’re grateful for and then start your day.
What this all boils down to is this. If you have issues with money, there’s likely a limiting belief or a story that you’ve been living from for a long time that has to shift. If you’ve been finding yourself sinking deeper in debt rather than attracting that money, it’s time to start creating new habits. To shift the way you view your finances. Acknowledge the past as a lesson, a way for you to see what didn’t work, to heal how you feel about the way money comes to you and from there move forward. Don’t get discouraged, keep up these practices and trust that you will always be supported. Money is your friend. Not your enemy. Treat it with respect, joy and gratitude. It will always be there to support you.