Clearing is critical because it allows us to make room.
Whether it is a physical space or an internal one, it’s important to manage both with the same integrity. If there is a mess, pick it up, get it out of the way, CLEAR it. Think of your living room. Imagine bringing in new things daily and never removing anything, eventually your space would be over-run with stuff and you would no longer enjoy being there. Now consider that your body is your primary living room. How often do you bring something in and never let it go? Have a feeling and leave it unresolved? As human beings we tend to be emotional hoarders. We take our feelings (especially the perceived negative ones) and tuck them neatly in all the cracks and crevices of our body until we feel stiff and full and achy and then look for external causes for our physical discomfort. We are uncomfortable saying how we feel when the emotions are not positive and so we don’t say anything at all, which becomes affirmation that are feelings aren’t valid, creating a whole new set of emotions for us to hide in our bodies.
For me this pattern showed up in my hips, after I had my third child at almost 40 they literally started to close. I could feel it happening and even spoke openly about my concerns. At the time it did not fully register that it was linked to all the emotional energy I was tucking in those joints daily. My marriage was no longer functioning, I had two teenagers and an infant. One bad feeling after another just found a home in my hips creating less and less mobility. At one point I was taking advil to sleep because they ached so much when I would lie down at night. Although I could articulate the physical pain of my hips, the emotions causing the pain stayed tightly tucked away as I put a smile on my face and “kept strong and carried on.”
Although advil allowed me to function, what I really needed to do was clear my space. I needed to face all the pain and fears one emotion at a time. Accept the things I couldn’t change and change the things I could. So I began to face each fear with a logical frame of mind and take the power away from the thought. I re-wired my mind to recognize that each one of these emotions was taking up valuable space in my soul closet and some things just weren’t worth keeping anymore. They were taking up space like ugly sweaters and it was time to let them go. Like my fear of spiders. Gone. Listen, I’m not confessing to be BFF’s with the 8 legged monsters, I no longer scream and run at the sight of them. Spiders were easy by comparison to some of the deep rooted emotions I found I had been carrying for a long time….like my unhappy marriage.
I am grateful to say that with a dedicated practice of clearing (done primarily in the physical through yoga), my hips are once again limber and pain free. Please note that although the clearing was pushed through physically, it was raw emotion that found its way out of my hips. I would go to yoga sometimes in a great frame of mind and then all of a sudden a release valve would turn and I would find myself sobbing on my mat. Each emotional release garnished a new physical opening and millimeter by millimeter I surrendered my mind and opened my hips. With each physical surrender I grew stronger and more willing to meet the next piece of emotional baggage head on and eyes open. I felt lighter, all that emotional storage is heavy to drag around all the time.
All these words in support of it and yet I will still have to state, clearing is not an easy process. We are spoon-fed direction to hold on to our gripes, our grudges and fears. Most of the time we are not even aware that these emotions take space in our body. But they do. And they compound. How many times have you found yourself experiencing a negative thought or emotion and all of a sudden your mind gives you ten more things to feel further upset about? The next time that happens pay attention to your physical body. Did these additional feelings create further tension, fuel additional anger? If so, rest assured there is an energy connected to those thoughts and that energy has been stored in your body somewhere waiting for the opportunity to rear its head up again.
So how do you clear it?
You simply cast it out of your physical home like an unwanted guest. We are humans sharing a human experience and we’re bound to bump into each other once in awhile. It is up to you what you take in and keep. For example. Let’s say today somebody cut you off on the highway, your initial reaction might be anger, but how long will you carry that? Will you carry it the rest of the drive to the office? Will you let it set the tone for your entire day? Or will you recognize that the person who cut you off likely had no thought of you at all and was just driving in a hurry without considering others on the road and then just shrug it off without adding any story to it?
I will affirm that the body is not separate from the mind. It is a shared space and it’s up to you to keep yours tidy. Everyone can relate to the benefit of a clean house; garbage out, floors washed, everything in its place. Now do the same with your temple. Clear out the person who bullied you in public school, the teacher who called you out in front of everyone in high school, the bad boyfriend, the worse girlfriend. If it’s not in your life today in this moment, it’s up to you to determine how long you’re going to carry it around. I can only promise you that you when you clear out the things you no longer need, you make room for what you do……and the Universe will take it from there.
Sheryle Blasko is a Reiki Master, a powerful yogi and a loving Mom to three incredible women.